Work at becoming the kind of person others want to be around

For many years, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale was a consistent source of excellent ideas for successful living. His books and tapes inspire to keep working to become a better person. Here are some of the ideas he suggested for getting along better with others. They are sound advice for all of us and worth repeating. Test yourself on each of them to evaluate how you are doing

1. Learn to remember names. People's names are very important to them. Forgetting a person's name is often taken as a sign you're not interested in them.
2. Relax and be a comfortable person to be with. Make sure there is no strain in being around you. No one enjoys being around upright people.
3. Learn to be an easy-going person. Take things in stride. Don't let little things bother you.
4. Don't be egoistical or give the impression you know everything. Work at learning from those around you. Learn to respect other people's opinions.
5. Be an interesting person. Stimulate others. Work at becoming the kind of person others want to be around.
6. Smooth out your rough spots. Learn to be gracious, polite, and tactful.
7. Be a peacemaker. Shrug off grievances. Honestly try to correct every misunderstanding you are involved in.
8. Overlook people's faults. Work at choosing to like others until you learn to do it naturally.
9. Boost other people. Encourage them, support them, congratulate them, and tell them why you appreciate them.
10. Develop spiritual depth so you have something to pass on to others. Learn to share this strength with people you meet.

I haven't mastered all these points. There is still much I can improve.
I am still working on them..
Will you???

I know u will..
Thanks
Hima

Relocation pain

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii....
I know its a long time I havent posted anything here and you all already miss me....
Well I missed you too...

But all of you all know the reason behind my absence....

Relocation isn't as easy as u (we) think. If you were a bachelor it wouldn't be a big deal otherwise, its a lot of pain.... You have to work your ass-off to pack all the stuff.. kitchen, clothes, living room and what not everything. The other pain is deciding on what to take and what to trash :(.. While I had to dump extra things in the trash, then I decided that I have to think 10 times while buying anything for my home just like the way you consult 10 people while getting your daughter married... hehehe....
Coz it would be fun to shop around but then when u have to carry all the stuff where ever you go, that would practically be impossible...

Its been 3 weeks since we drove all the way from upstate New York to North Carolina..
Well.... driving 640 miles took us 12 loooooooooooong hours but then neither of us never felt the strain. Reasons could be the 75 miles/hour speed limit (well we drove in 80 though.. coz rules are always rules wherever we are and the rule that rules are meant to be broken would never change)
We didnt feel broken coz we took 2 or three breaks on our way for food and gas.
In one of the gas stations I have found a hoarding that says "our food gives you gas".... wasn't that clear what it really means... but it definitely brought a smile on our faces :D

Well let me give you few details about the state and then I will share my experiences I had here....

North Carolina is in the southern part of the united states of america with Raleigh as the capital and Charlotte as the largest city. Throughout the year the temperatures here are really hottttt when compared to the other parts of the united states (they make me feel like I am in India). The sad part is that I will miss the New York winters especially the snow). My husband feels lucky coz he doesn't have to clean up his car every single day in the freezing winters coz it barely snows here.

One thing I observed is that people here use a different dialect to communicate.. They kind of speak like a typical andhra guy speaks.... There is a peculiar way they stretch each and every word (that made it at times a little difficult for us to understand :)

And on our way from NY to NC, when we stopped for food (and the gas it gives.. according to the hoarding :D), I felt very embarrassed coz everyone was looking at us like we were aliens or abandoned. I believe they have this racial discrimination. Yeah they have lotsa racism... huhh..... disgusting....

The place hickory is pretty much like the place we lived before except the no snow (in bold) winters...
Keeping aside the weather, I like the place... We are very close to the mall, wal-mart, sams-club and what not everything....

And that is all for now... coz we haven't explored much here so I will keep adding stuff as time passes on if anything interesting comes up and you keep checking out :D



Your's
Hima

The Wedding Crashers

Hi All 
I can't believe its been more than a month since I posted something...
But, well, procrastination is a way with me and sorry for being out of the loop for so long...especially since there's been so much going on in my life....I really don't know where to begin all over again...


Looking at the title I am 200% sure you people are mistaken assuming that I will be talking about the English movie 'Wedding Crashers'. But no....

Its almost the season so many people step into their new phase of life getting married to their life mate. I was just thinking about one of my friends sister who is expected to enter her wed-lock very soon and some how my thoughts were jumping here and there and I finally ended up thinking about aish and bacchan's wedding. 

I still haven't got over it. No not the fact that Ash and Abhishek got married but the fact that a news channel ran the SAME story with ABSOLUTELY no NEWS the ENTIRE DAY! I kid you not people.

So let's start at the beginning. Since the news channel ...oh to hell with it...it was Headlines Today...since they hadn't been invited to the wedding they got two of their reporters dressed in wedding finery and stationed them at the studio. And they proceeded to talk and talk and talk about the most insane stuff I have ever heard in my life. Which I will get to in a bit.

So there's a camera stationed outside Amitab's house. And the "whole world" was waiting with bated breath for Abishek to clamber on his horse and ride out in all glory to his other house. And our anchors back in studio chatter about absolutely nothing for 2 hours before Abhishek finally comes out.
And now here it goes

Male anchor: So do you think Abhi (as if he were his chaeddi dost or pathang fren) will come out in 5, 10, 15 or 20 mins?
Female Anchor (giggling to eat up air time): Oh we could bet on that!
MA: Cricket's not the only thing we can place bets huh? HA HA HA HA - that's them laughing not me.

And it goes on. When a sliver of Abhishek is seen through the side window of the huge bus parked in front of the house, the two anchors are in raptures.
Male Anchor: "Oh there he is! The moment we have all been waiting for"

(now tell me who has got no work or no life and have been waiting all the day to just look at abhishek)

Female Anchor: "If only I could go whisper in his ear 'Jhalak dhikla ja'"

Sure why don't you do just that? Oh yes of course...coz you're a journalist and NOT A CRAZED fan whispering demented songs in his ear.

It was pathetic. The camera could only show you glimpses of people arriving, half of whom the reporters failed to recognize. Only the really famous ones like Jaya Pradha (???) were excitedly commented upon.
Female Anchor: "Oh there's Jaya Bachchan! I'm so glad we could see her!" wait wait... come again.....
And then we had the Male Anchor give us some juicy news.
Male Anchor: "We have just received information from our on-the-scene reporter that Ash is going to be riding on two dolis! "
Breaking news!

Male Anchor: "Yes! And the first one she will get into at Prateeksha and then get off at Prateeksha itself!"

We never heard whether Ash would ride the second doli into her bathroom or it was meant for higher purposes.
Female Anchor: "For interesting updates like that keep watching our 24 hrs news channel!"

Well may be the news channels should be put in the list of entertainment channels as they are very much aiming at telecasting the wedding, break ups, engagement stories and the gossips about the celebrities rather than focusing on educating people about whats going around the world.

Of course the channel devoted the whole morning to interviewing this crazy (and very unattractive) woman who claimed she was married to Abhishek. She was obviously after the publicity and any half-brained twit could see that. She kept repeating the same things and the reporters kept asking silly questions.

OK now let me get to the point of the whole post (yes there is a point) ...what on EARTH are news channels thinking when they air stuff like this throughout the day? The occasional 'other' news that they deemed important enough ran by on ticker tape. Why point a camera at a gate the whole day, waiting for a Bollywood star to come out only to get into a bus? Do they really think that that's what people want to watch ALL day?

This is not an isolated event. Other news channels too run atrocious stories based on flimsy facts and uninteresting news. And everything is backed by 'experts' - psychologists, professionals and god knows who else - who sit there and declare so many conclusions and things like "Jhanwi is deluded. Perhaps she really believes that Abhishek married her!"
HELLO?

The most disgusting thing is that the audience is assumed to be foolish, ignorant, hungry for celebrity gossip, excited by the channel's idea of sensational news and dying for gruesome news. And please don't even think we can't see through the 'Since we don't have enough information let's put some experts on a panel, play reruns of the same visuals and ask the same old questions to our harried reporters on the scene'.

We KNOW.

There are many people who are born with no money for feeding themselves at least twice a day. And there are many more who are dying coz of health issues and having no money to cure their diseases. And there are thousands of them who want to study but have no money to pay for the school. And on the other side, there are thousands of government employees who are taking crores and crores of our money (the reason I said our money is most of the money they are robbing is nothing but the taxes we pay every year) and buying what not everything. The kids of theirs spend an average of 5000 a day as pocket money....

But then the NEWS channels are concentrating more on the celebrities rather than the society and the needful.

All the NEWS channels should firstly understand why they are called NEWS channels and whats the difference between NEWS and ENTERTAINMENT channels... 

May be things will then get better...

Hoping for better NEWS..

Yours 

Raj